The Dangers of Solitude

 Solitude is most definitely a double edged sword. And which side is cutting one depends entirely where one is in life.

If one is in a place of Being Insecure, not in touch with Who They Are as a Human Being, and generally, not in every case, and maybe not even in the majority cases, when one is younger, then solitude can be a bad place.

It will then be a place where every single mistake, every single time that one could have been a better human, every time that one felt bad about themselves, will be repeated on a loop thus reinforcing ones negative self image.

Also, in my experience, every single slight, trick played on one, nasty remark, all the things that will make one mad, will also play on a loop. And ones stress level will go thru the roof and one is hating everyone and everything.

So, one is either feeling extremely bad about who they are, or one is feeling the euphoria of negativity that in anger and hate. A very toxic mix.

And there is also what a friend of mine called "Future Trippin'". Where one is imagining a future that is bleak and dark with nothing good about it. It may be an overall picture of the future, or it may be an event set in that future, either way it is bleak and dark.

And when one is in a negative place in their life mentally, spiritually, emotionally, etc, and one is alone in their own mind, that is the type of thing that can happen. And often does happen.

The other edge is when one has done work and gotten in touch with who they are and comfortable with themselves. And again, not true in every case. We are all unique individuals who have a lot of similar characteristics. We are not the same as each other however.

For people like this Solitude can be dangerous because one can become very comfortable with being with themselves. And they then will have less time for people who are not comfortable with themselves, or the energy drainers and dramatists that they used to call friends. They will be fine with just walking away from relationships that they used to cling to.

And sometimes, they can become so comfortable with solitude that they stop doing the things that got them comfortable with themselves. And begin to gradually, and usually unknowingly, slide back to not being comfortable with themselves.

There are so many different aspects to Solitude. Part of it is recognizing if one is being Solitary or if one is Isolating. Two very different things.

And neither one is optimal for a Human Being.

So what is the antidote to Solitude and/or Isolation? Community. Being a part of a Larger Community. Staying connected to people with whom one can relate to some degree or another. Staying Connected to the Human Race. Because we are all members of the Human Race. Like it or not.

The most complete antidote to Being in Solitude and/or Isolation is Love. Because if one Loves then, in my opinion, it is impossible to be Solitary and/or Isolated.

Because, in the end, we must all Love each other or die.

Love. It is the only Rational Act.